What are we ready to sacrifice for the sense of security?
Some life challenges can serve us for breaking our own boundaries, they can be places for overcoming some old patterns of thinking, behavior, beleives…
This topic is always ticklish, because there is no one out there who can tell us is this jump into the unknown and unexplored, good and desirable for us ie. how much benefit it brings us, or maybe disadvantages. Unfortunately, or fortunately, this is what everyone has to find out for themselves.
The comfort zone, we all often like to stay in, is a double edged sword. On the one hand, it seems seductive because it provides comfort and a sense of security cause we’re staying in the known, and on the other hand, it keeps us in the same place ie. it does not give us the opportunity for grow and development.
From my own experience I can tell you that forcing things isn’t gonna get us where we want to be and when it comes to this topic, my opinion is the same.
Today there is a lot of talking about getting out of your safe zone,or rather your comfort zone, but on the other hand, there are no guidelines for doing this.
Just as no human is the same, the way and the pace of breaking our own borders are also going to be diffrent. That is what is beautiful. I believe that it is all part of our journey, a path that does not have a specific goal and has no end. This is something that always comforts me when I start to think that I am late for something, that I have not achieved something yet, and when I “neurotically” think that things should come up the way I want them to be.
Our whole life is made up of the opposites, the good and the bad, the tides, night and day…that is how we all function. So, in that sense, it is nice to stay in a place of security and soak up that nourishing energy that we felt as little babies in the arms of our parents, but than again it is nice to jump out into the unknown (knowing our limits), to experience that adrenaline rush and fear and look into the eyes (for the thousandth time) of our greatest enemy, called fear, so we can see that, in fact, we had nothing to fear. While breaking the ilusion we feel powerful, strong ….Until the next time when we would curl up in our comfort zone again and wait for the storm to pass.
After all we are just human beings:)
The only thing that is constant is change.
Don’t be hard on yourself. Accept all your life stages as part of your journey.
Until next time… be gentle with yourself and others. Don’t judge, accept.
The change lies in acceptance 😊